Today, I sat and looked out the window and noticed winter finally begin to fade away here in Georgia.
Since I’ve been in the same location a few years I’ve noticed each winter some of the branches on the trees have fallen off and the landscape doesn’t quite look the same.
Each winter takes a small toll on the landscape, a toll that neither spring nor fall will fully repair.
I believe there are a lot of things about life that probably can be attributed to the same scenario, such as the aging process and relationships.
As we get older, out body lets us know how many “winters” we have endured and whether or not we have taken precautions to ensure a long life … plastic surgery can only help with the the exterior appearance and not what’s inside … besides, how many of us can afford surgery all the time to repair what we didn’t take care of the first time around.
Sure, we can plant something and give it what it needs to grow; a new plant can grow and take care of itself for a time, but it will only be able to feed off its own nutrients and the nutrients of the soil it is planted in for so long.
Eventually, spring and summer won’t be enough to heal a neglected plant and winters will take its toll; the plant will wilt away eventually and won’t return … in essence, it dies.
But, with just a little TLC throughout the life of the plant, the plant will flourish a lot longer. The more nurturing and care the plant has, the longer the life, beauty, enjoyment and pleasure we will receive when we first decided to plant it.
Relationships are a lot the same.
Anyone that has been in love can probably remember the point where they first thought they were in love. The feeling of euphoria and well-being was overwhelming.
I equate those feelings to whether a person says they love someone or say they are “in love” with someone.
Being old school, I believe there is a distinct difference in loving someone and being in love.
Being “in love,” to me, is still feeling that same type of euphoria and well-being that was felt the first time you just “knew” what love really was.
Of course, with anything, love matures, but the feeling you get from being in love is one that can’t be forgotten … and can only be reinforced through proper care … kind of like a plant that’s been nurtured throughout its life.
Falling in love, or being in love, is not something you can initially do and expect that love to grow or feel the same without feeding it.
The best advice I have heard about keeping a love alive and what it takes to stay “in love” is to treat every day like the first day you met the love of your life.
Whatever you did for someone to fall in love with you … keep doing it. Nurture the love rather than do things that make your love interest question your feelings.
Everyone looses their way now and then, but what is more important is getting back on track with the one you are in love with. If you have to ask or question your feelings about loving someone or being in love with someone, chances are … you aren’t “in love” with them.
So, if you still feel butterflies around your significant other, they might just be your true love … all you have to do is keep doing the things that bring butterflies to them.
Remember, love, like plants, can only grow when nurtured and properly cared for. You can’t just plant the seed and leave it in the dark. Give love and yourself a reason to glow.
Find a way to shine.